You are using Apple, the complex things you see are part of your apple operating system. Windows users see a colour picker that they pick a colour from because that is the tool windows offers up when asked.
Both operating systems should put up an equivalent to this
Apple has something that looks like this as their operating system colour picker
They offer instructions here on using this part of their operating system.
The special problem MAC users appear to have is they do not close the colour picker dialog and then complain that the colours in Thunderbird do not update. So, close the dialog. That is all you have to do to make it work.